LoveNotes: Part 9

Sooo……Why do people get married?

REASONS:

1) Fulfilling your desires (most important thing is to make halal the conjugal relations)
2) Seeking pleasure of RasulAllah (saws) on Day of Judgment because he wanted his Ummah to be the largest
3) Procreation
a. First child-training/testing ground
b. Second child-you teach the lesson
c. Third child-kid teach you the lesson (LOL)
4) Seeking Intercession of righteous child after they die (not as in shirk; as in, sadaqa Jaria—continuous charity)
5) Protection from Evil/Temptation/Zina
6) Free some time for you—you have another person who can help you
7) Mujahadatan Nas—Self Struggle
a. There are difficulties in marriage too
Prophet (s) said: “The dirham you spend on your family is worth more than dirham you spend on the cause of Allah”

Marriage can have different levels:

-WAJIB: if a person has ability to marry and treat wife properly and there’s a strong chance he’ll commit zina w/o marriage

-MUSTAHHAB: when he has means to marry, no fear of committing zina, can treat wife well

-MUBAH: it’s never Mubah (permissible) (because at the least it’s MUSTAHHAB)

-MAKRUH: if has the means to marry but there’s a strong possibility he won’t treat wife well .

-HARAM: when a person does not have the means to marry and feels certain he will not treat wife properly

MOST MUSLIM SCHOLARS SAY MARRIAGE IS AN ACT OF WORSHIP

1) WHEN Allah spoke of Adam, he referred to him as a Khalifa
2) Second=command of RasulAllah (s) of telling youth to marry
3) Prophet (s) said that in the fulfillment of one’s desires with spouse, it is an act of charity/sadaqah

IMAM SHAFI’I SAYS NOT ACT OF WORSHIP
-he said it’s not an act of worship because deals with mu’amalat