LoveNotes: Part 8

Definitions of Marriage

1) A legal union between 1 man and 1 woman as husband and wife
2) Civil contract between man and woman (common law marriages)
3) Legal and/or social agreement
4) When a man loses his bachelor’s degree and a woman gains her master’s J

1) Adam and Hawwa: considered husband and wife
a. We don’t really know details of relationship
b. Procreation started on earth, not Jannah, Allahu alim

2) Before Islam, ALL marriages = religious practice
a. In mostly all cultures and religions
b. Went to religious figures to approve marriage
c. Marriage = so significant that they want their Lord to be their witness

3) Divorce
a. In Orthodox Judaism = very similar to Muslim way
b. In Catholicism, divorce = wrong/forbidden

There were 4 types of marriage in pre-Islamic Arabia:

1)Barter trade (exchange) w/ dowry and consent
-contract= similar to western culture
2) Group sex; women would have sex with many men and whoever the baby looks like would be husband (astaghfirAllah!)
3) Prostitute
4) Similar to Islam, w/ marriage contract

What is default in marriage: MONOGAMY or POLYGAMY?

-Monogamy is default(some scholars disagree with this, Allah knows best)
-polygamy: a man can have more than one wife
-First practice of homosexuality (man and man) – people of Prophet Lut (as)
-Native American and European cultures had it too
-same-sex marriages getting more common and even allowed in America now

*say NO to homosexuality*

-Regarding polygamy (which is definitely permissible in the religion of Islam):

-Allah says in Qur’an: “marry only one” (if you cannot be just with more than one)
--> Qur’an = ONLY book which says MARRY ONLY ONE, Islam limited number of wives a man could have; other religions don’t do that.

-Marrriage = sunnah of Prophet (s) and if he married, by not marrying, you are NOT better, BUT you are going against his sunnah

The Definition of Legal Marriage

“A contract that results in the man and woman living with each other and supporting each other within the limits of what has been laid down for them in terms of rights and obligations”