Muslim Identity- Khalid Yaseen

-Definition of Identity according to Websters Dictionary.

-the name of an indiviual is important.
-Rasuallah (saw) changed bad names. Ex: Wahshi (ugly) to Hasan.
-Names is the first sound where you start to build your emotions around.
-The best way to bond with someone is to say their name over and over again. It's a psychological thing. Ex: when you to a job interview, they usually say your name many times when talking to you. They were trained to do so.
-An identity crisis (mental physcosis) is when you hide who you are and pretend to be someone else.
-We as muslims have developed an identity crisis and want to be like the people who oppress them.
-Take your time and study your relationship with Allah. Study the seerah.

Conditions of loving Rasuallah (saw)
-obey him
-follow his sunnah
-be familiar with his seerah

-Muslim students need to be at the top in universities. If not then you have an identity crisis. Muslims don't drink, do drugs or party so WHY NOT?

*Most of us aren't in La illaha illa Land but in La-La land*

-Osama bin Zaid had a whole army of 15,000 under his charge and he was only in his teens.
-Ayesha (RA) narrated hadiths. 2nd best after Abu Huraria.
-53 men and 29 women studied from her and became Ulama

*If you're cool with the homo then you have a bit of homo in you too*

We may Delay, But Time Won't- Said Rageah

-Ghareeb is a person who is brought to the masjid and no one knows him.

-Ali ibn Abi Talib went to the grave and said "What news do you have for us? The news that we have for you is you money is no longer yours. Your wives remarried. Your children became orphans. Therefore the best provision is the taqwa of Allah."

-Amr ibn Aaas: I want to know how a person feels when the angel of death comes to take the soul away. Describe death. O my son! I feel as if the mountains are on my chest, breathing through a needle hole, I feel like a bird in a pot of boiling oil" He felt all this pain and he was a sahabi..

Pro's and Con's of Delaying Marriage - Muhammad Al Shareef

Pro's

- You have time to become financially ready to support a wife and a household.
- Finish school and save money
- They'll grow and be able to mature.
- If they're mature then divorce rates will be less and problems will be solved in a mature way.
- Learn more about Islam

Con's

- If you get married at an old age then your ways of life are set already and its harder to accept different ways.
-Difficulty having children, miscarriages.
-It can create weakness in the heart due to temptations
-If a person has bad habits such as smoking, difficult to avoid.
-Delaying marriage is against the sunnah of Rasuallah (saw)

Permissible & Prohibited acts in Marriage- Muhammad Al-Shareef

- Why is everything in Islam haram? Because people only ask questions of what is haram not what is halal.

-Women will be the majority in Hell-Fire. Reasons being:
1) Cursing: cursing their husbands
2) Forgetting the virtue of their husband. All the good things he has done.

-Men are not allowed too:
1) to abandon his wife. If she isn't wearing hijab or praying, he doesn't care.
2) Curse and swear at his wife
3) To hit and beat his wife

-Be patient with your wife. She is created from a bent rib so don't try to straighten it. Don't try to make her into a man.

-If she she's ironing clothes as way to express her love then do the same. Show love the same way she shows love to you.

Ignorance is the night of the mind without Stars- Muhammad Al-Shareef

-Friday Khutbah (sermon) is the last place to seek knowledge. If you're not there, then you're freestyling through life.

-There was a great scholar in Baghdad. Students of knowledge wanted to learn from him but had halaqah's all day. The only time they had left is during their sleep. So they decided to shorten their sleeping time to be able to learn from the great scholar.

-For many years these students of knowledge didn't eat sweets because during the time they were seeking knowledge, the sweet store was open.

-Imam As-seewati (sp?) wrote a tafseer for Surah Al-Fatiha at the age of 7.

-Because of knowledge there are two destinations:

1)Highest level of Jannah
2)Lowest pit of hell-fire

-If a person of knowledge commits haram other people precieve it to be ok and follow him.

-A person who may be studying computer science for selfish reasons is no problem BUT a person who is studying Islam for selfish reasons is BIG TROUBLE!

-The more chance of higher return, the higher chance of punishment. If you don't practice what you preach.

-Once a couple of young men heard that the inheritence of the Prophet (saw) was being distributed at the masjid. They thought it was money but when got there found hadith being thought. This is the inheritance of the Prophet. Knowledge.

-People of the past who had less technology had much more knowledge and were much more wiser than people of today.

-In an old book there are no table of contents when you want to find something quickly. Why you ask? The writer is simply telling you to READ THE BOOK.

-Quoting this and that is nothing but fake knowledge if you didn't read the whole book.

-With all the technology the knowledge should be increasing.

-The path of seeking knowledge leads to Jannah.

-Verily Allah and his angels, ants, fish in the sea all make dua to the Muallim, the teacher.

-The person who hears a hadith from us and passes it on is as if he is given a blank check to be checked in his name.

-Umar (RA)- I seek Allah's protection from the strengthened enthusiasm of a Fasiq.
(Reading a Quran for 1/2 hour compared to reading a novel for 6 hours)

-I've never seen a sadder flaw in the community than to see people who can go all the way and don't.

Excuses Shaytan tricks you with:

1) "I want to study Islam BUTTTTTTTTTTTTTT I'll wait until I can go overseas."

-How long will that take? 10 years. If you don't take advantage of knowledge in your own backyard, you won't take advantage of the ones overseas

2) "You know everything already". Everytime you go to a class its just repetition. You need to go somewhere else with advanced knowledge

A Person should make dua to increase in knowledge
"Rabbi Zidni 3ilman"

Marriage- Khalid Yaseen

-Marriage is half of your faith

-It can be divided into issues of Ibadat and Mu3amalat

-It's a very strong sunnah. Marriage is part of my sunnah, whoever leaves it is not among me.

-To parents: If you don't feel like talking about it to your kids, they'll go to somebody else who might not have the correct information etc.

-Among his signs, he created male and female
-He created among them a social union called marriage with the purpose to dwell and find sakinah and develop passion and Rahma (mercy)

-Allah (swt) placed inside us a natural attraction to each other. Islam simply sets the parameters on what is natural.

-Through marriage Allah is protecting the generation, the society, parents, children, their grandchildren etc.

-The rizq (provision) comes from Allah. Don't worry about feeding them. Infact have lots and lots of children.

-The average muslim family has 5 kids. Allah has blessed the ummah of Muhammad.

-By the year 2010, there will be 20 milliom muslims in North America. While the non-muslims are killing of their children (abortion)

-Marriage is a protection against immorality and sexual perversion.

-STD's among muslims is a very small number. Another blessing from Allah.

-Don't just sit there and desire to get married but prepare for it so that when the time comes you are ready for it.

-It's forbidden to force someone into marriage.

-Mahr: Family demanding expensive dowry is an issue. Due to this many old women are still unmarried.

-Make sure they're witnesses to the marriage and that they aren't getting married in secret. That the community knows about.

-Marry divorcees: they need someone to guide them. A comfort especially if they have children.

*The biggest fool is the one who fools himself*

-Marrying non-muslims:
-Marry people of the book (Jews, Christians) who haven't been sexually active before
-Only men can marry non muslims.
-A common problem: You marry a non-muslim. They later on refuse to convert and become muslim. You end up in a divorce. As usual the custody system in the west the kids go to the mother. The kids are raised with non-muslim family members in a non-muslim enviorment. You have kids who are then confused about their identity. i

-A Muslim woman marrying a non-muslim man
-It is forbidden in Islam
-In most cases the male dominates the female. She'll accept the leadership of the husband who is a non-muslim. When you marry a non-muslim man you also marry his family. If something happens to her or the husband the kids will end up with the father's family.

-Temporary marriage: Mut'aa Marriage
-It's forbidden.
-It was only allowed during Khaibar for a limited time.

-Welfare Wives
-Why marry women if you can't take care of them?
-If you already finding it hard to manage one wife DON'T marry another and put them on welfare.