Boyfriend/Girlfriend- What is the solution? Sh.Bilal Philips

-In 1920's and 1950's after World War I & II women went out of their homes to work due to shortage of mean; gaining "independence" postponing marriage, childbirth. Being a mother and wife was seen as exploitation and oppression
-Punishment for fornication: 100 lashes...IN PUBLIC. It's not about the pain. It's about the shame.

CONSEQUENCES
-Hellfire: people who commited zina will naked and burning in an oven
-STD's
-illigitemate kids-single parent families/Broken homes
-Abortions (1990's stats: 3 million abortions were taking place in the U.S alone)
-One of the 7 people who will be shaded on the day of judgement is the one who stopped himself from commiting zina and said "I fear Allah"
-Parents should train their kids from young age not mix freely
-Females should talk in a buisness like manner to males
-teaching you children to dress modestly

HOW TO DEAL AS PARENTS
-Do not explode--> leads to rebellion
-Deal with the situation realistly
-Find out why it took place
-Don't be judgmental, accustive
-LISTEN

MAIN CAUSES
-peer pressure
-boredom
-desiring attention
-low self esteem
-the need to feel loved

SOLUTIONS
-most fundamental factor that leads to it this insecurity
-give proper love and attention-assign challenging tasks and be more involved into other things
-make new friends (if the cause is peer pressure and so on)
-early marriage "Any of you who are able should get married"