LoveNotes: Part 3

Qur’an and Sunnah

-liyaskuna ilayha: peace and tranquility
-Surah ‘Araaf: “He created you from a single soul”

*Why did Allah create Hawa from Rib of Adam?

-to be close to his heart
-so she would be under his arm  protection and guardianship

-Surah Yusuf: Zulekha was infatuated with Yusuf.

Sunnah:

1) ‘Ya RasulAllah, I have an orphan girl in my protection. 2 suitors came: poor and rich. We want rich man but she wants poor. What’s your opinion?”

“We don’t see anything better for lovers but marriage” (Sunan Ibn Majah)

2) Amr bin Aas = great general, wanted to see who Prophet salAllahu alayhi wassalam loved best.

“Who is the most beloved to you” he asked. Prophet salAllahu alayhi wassalam replied: AISHA. he asked: from amongst men? ABOOHA (her father)" [Sahih BUKHARI, MUSLIM]

Why did Prophet salAllahu alayhi wassalam answer in this way? He was TRUTHFUL so he answered this way

3) Other wives complained because most people brought gifts to him while he’s in the home of Aisha
-Prophet (s) = w/ Aisha under blanket
-Fatima (ra) came in to house and told Prophet (s) that other wives wanted justice
-Prophet (s): “Don’t you love what I love? Then just love her”
-Zainab bint Jahsh = rival of Aisha
-comes in and directly attacks Aisha
- Prophet (s) tells Aisha to finish argument
-Aisha defeated Zainab in this incident; Prophet (s) said: “She is the daughter of her father”
(Wisdom: Let women finish if they are fighting :) )
(SAHIH MUSLIM)

4) Prophet (s) would distribute material to people including wives:

a. “Oh Allah this is the distribution under my control. Do not judge me on what I cannot control”

5) to Umar (Amir al Mu’mineen): someone said “I am in love ya Umar”
Umar: “This is not in your hands”

“If I lived in the time of Umar and Ufra I would help them get married”

6) Zaid bin Thabit: very well known for Qur’an and knowledge
a. People brought someone who died from love
b. Zaid led Salatul Janaza and people asked “Why did you lead Janaza for someone who did in this manner?”
c. Zaid said: “I have mercy for him” (inni rahimtu)

Points:
-Love is in the hands of Allah (swt)
-We are not in control
-Allah can’t make us accountable to what’s in His hands
-The word “love” itself was used many times in Seerah
-There’s nothing to be ashamed of
-Prophet (s) loved Aisha so much that he spoke publicly of it
-It’s not a sign of weakness to say you love someone
-People think if a man says “I love someone” then she’d step on his back but not necessarily true
-Hadith: Jabir (ra): Prophet (saws) said: “Go and see the person you’ll marry” (encouraged in Shariah)